Scarcity Pie

Hi, my name is Kylie, and I’m a podcast junkie.

Okay, bad and overdone jokes aside? I'm crazy, head-over-heels in love with podcasts. If you hang around me longer than an hour at some point in the conversation I’ll probably lean in and excitedly share something particularly juicy I recently heard in a podcast. #nerdalert

So it’s no surprise that with the amount of podcasts I listen to that I can’t remember exactly where I heard the concept of scarcity pie, but if it comes to me, I promise I’ll give the podcaster credit. Sometimes we believe there’s only so much “good stuff” to go around which is why we tend to get antsy whenever something good happens to someone else. We get especially antsy whenever something good happens to "that person." Don't act like you don't know who I'm talking about because I know you know. We wonder things like, if that good thing could happen to them, what does that mean for me? They just took the last good job, didn’t they? They just snapped up the last good man, which means I’m doomed to be single forever, doesn't it? Ugh, they got a book deal/pregnant/trip around the world/miniature pony with diamond encrushted sequins braided into its mane? I’m done for.

We think if someone gets a slice of the pie, that means there’s less to go around for the rest of us. I’m pretty sure scarcity pie is made of poisoned apples that causes our hearts to rot. When someone else gets a slice of scarcity pie, it’s almost like they hold up a mirror to us that reflects back our deepest insecurities.

In my work as a counselor/coach and in my own personal experience as a human being, I know how difficult facing fears of feeling not enough or worries about being too much can be. These aren’t easy things to navigate.

One part of working out who we are and our place in this world is recognizing we are lovable exactly as we are. For most of us, it’s a hard concept to accept. Our chummy, BFF status with our shortcomings can cause us to struggle to identify the things about us that are good. But it runs so much deeper than that or else we would be able to shake free from this struggle much more easily than we do. Ever the over thinker, I’ve been wondering what it is that makes it so stinking hard to believe our hearts are good? I’ve begun to wonder if it’s because we are eating from a different kind of scarcity pie? If we recognize the good in ourselves, do we feel like it somehow takes away from the goodness of others? Have we somehow begun to believe there only so much heart-goodness to go around?

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” -Marianne Williamson

We’re called to be light in this world (Matt. 5:14). Part of shining our light is learning to make peace with who we are. Recognizing that we are deeply loved and were crafted with careful intention to shine brightly and intentionally living from that space doesn’t take anything away from anyone else. Instead, it contributes deeply to the world because walking in your freedom invites people to step into their own freedom.

Let’s put down our forks and push away from the scarcity pie. There’s enough goodness to go around in every single area of life, my friends.